Monday was beautiful. Every moment. Those who were there know it. Heather’s energy was in the room. We all wrapped her with warmness and shared loving moments of what she meant to us and how she touched our lives.
Our friend, Amy Edwards, prepared a wonderful remembrance of Heather’s life and gave everyone a heart-felt eulogy. Amy has known us since 2003 and is one of the “seven sisters”. She moved everyone by her grace and raw emotion in honoring Heather’s life, love, and battle.
I smiled and cried as family and friends shared how they were touched by Heather. I always knew Heather was smart, compassionate, competent, modest, altruistic, funny, and present as a human in every role she wore. This was evident when so many described my sweet wife for the strong traits that she lived for. This was my smile.
Friends and family also shared a memory that exemplified one or more of her traits. In each example I could close my eyes and relive it like it was told; I saw Heather’s smile; I heard her sweet voice; and I was lifted by her spirit. This is what brought me to tears.
Family friend, Elaine Dempsey, bookend’d the whole ceremony with two songs, California Dreaming, and a song she wrote, Dance of the Moonlight. She told everyone that she envisioned Heather signing this song to me just before she passed away. There was not a dry eye in the building. Follow Elaine’s band, Big Wide Grin, on Facebook. They tour on both costs! Elaine, I love you!!
Paulie was amazing. He sat next to me and listened to every word from every person who spoke of his loving mother. I am so proud and happy that he experienced such a memory as it will surely help the years of coping with this great loss. He also made it through most of the reception line. It was a healing evening for both of us to get hugs and kisses from all who loved Heather and expressed their condolences.
Paulie, Heather’s sister Laura, and I rest now before heading east to Connecticut to be with more family and friends eager to share their love and stories of Heather.